5 Simple Ways to Cultivate Thankfulness

Today I have a guest post for you!  I hope you enjoy it.

It is that time of the year. The time we come together with our loved ones to devour the main course of the day. Turkey!

Well, for many of us Thanksgiving is all about the food, fixings, and family.We then wish each other a Happy Thanksgiving and depart.

Yes, it feels good to celebrate with family and friends. But I want you to pause for a moment and reflect. Deeply reflect on all the great things that God has done in your life all year long.

Here are some ways in which you can purpose to immerse yourself in the spirit of Thanksgiving:

Stop comparing yourself to others

It is human nature to look at another person and admire their life. Usually, this will leave you devastated about yours.

As Christians, the Bible tells us in Matthew 6: 25-34 to worry about nothing because our heavenly father knows our troubles and will take care of everything.

During this Thanksgiving season, leave it all to God. It will give you peace of mind. It will also fill you with gratitude.

1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

Be present

The next time you want to think about 2019, 2020, or even 2034…don’t! It is a time to reflect at everything that is happening now.

Look at the people around you. Your loved ones. Look at nature outside. All of it.

My beautiful family and our dog surround me.

This way, you have something for which to give thanks. We often tend to focus on planning the next steps in life that we do not enjoy the moment.  Ephesians 5:16 Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.

Journal

If you do not keep a journal,it is time to start.

I have a 5-Minute Journal that I note down the wins of the day and everything for which I am grateful.

As a Christian, I make a point to count my blessings each day. You too can start. When you count your blessings you automatically tune your soul to give thanks to God.

Psalms 103:2 reads;

   Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits.

You can seamlessly nurture the spirit of thanksgiving if you do not let a day pass by without looking at God’s work in your life

Here is a great journal from amazon.

Be grateful through the bad times

Well…

You could be undergoing financial hardship. Or your loved one is sick. Maybe your marriage is falling apart. You know the thing that is troubling you.

Finding sunshine on a stormy day is difficult. Trust me, I know.

Say a prayer to God thanking Him for all of it. Hope will fill your heart as Romans 12.12 urges us to “rejoice in hope; be patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer.”

It is our faith in such situations that show the greatest act of thanksgiving.

Be generous

You do not have to be a millionaire to help others. Everything matters in the eyes of God. The most important thing is that you do it with a pure heart.

This Thanksgiving season is not only the time to celebrate with friends and family but also to share with others.

You can volunteer at a soup kitchen or a homeless shelter. You can also invite someone who is lonely to celebrate with your family.

You do not have to give out material things as a show of generosity. You can share a smile and cheerfulness. Let your loved ones know that you cherish them. Compliment your neighbor.

Do anything in your capacity to show that you are grateful for what God has granted you.

Final thoughts…

When you give thanks, you will be content and fulfilled.

Anxiety, anger, depression have no place in your heart. Thanksgiving means that you acknowledge and trust God’s intentions in your life.

Let us now give thanks and enjoy this precious season. Happy Thanksgiving!

Psalm 95:2-3 Let us come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms. For the Lord is a great God, and a great King above all gods.

Author: Peninah Nabwire

I’d like to thank Peninah for reminding us that Thanksgiving should be done more than one day a year.  As Christians, no matter what we go through, we have so much to be thankful for! 

Until Next Time-

Davi





Christian Modesty: A Garden Inclosed + Sale

A lady’s dress is as a garden inclosed.  

Song of Solomon is a beautiful book written to describe the treasured relationship of a husband and a wife.  Both a husband and wife should desire to keep themselves pure for each other.  When each spouse treasures the other as their very own secret and beautiful garden marriage is a beautiful picture of our Lord and His church, the Bride of Christ.  

Song of Solomon 4:12 
A garden inclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed.

King James Bible

What is a garden inclosed?

A garden inclosed regarding the way a woman dresses will keep her body covered so that men will see her not as an object but rather, a lady.  In today’s world women are heavily objectified as something sensual and not as the beloved and cherished people that God created them to be.  A woman that does not want to be treated in a disrespectful manner should carry herself as lady.  The modesty of a Christian will keep their garden from spoil. 

What are our dress guidelines for our dress?

Well this is certainly where things get a little more difficult.  Some denominations are very extreme and others are very liberal.  I will tell you what my guide lines are and why I have them.

  1. Cover the entire thigh.  Yes, I cover my entire thigh on the beach, even when it’s hot, even while at home.  This comes from Exodus 28:42 And thou shalt make them linen breeches to cover their nakedness; from the loins even unto the thighs they shall reach:  Here we have God’s thought on what a naked leg is. 
  2.  Wear feminine clothes.  I personally believe this means no pants, jeans (especially skinny jeans) or shorts. I know this is not popular but I do have my reasons.  Please understand that you may disagree without being ugly about my personal conviction.  In a culture filled with gender identity issues, I don’t want people to have to guess my gender when they see me from a distance.  I want to enjoy being feminine just the way God created me. 

Deuteronomy 22:5 
The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the Lord thy God.

King James Bible

3. Wear slips and clothes that can not been seen through.  It is so difficult to find clothes that are made of fabrics that can’t be seen through in the Florida sun.  I have a large supply of camisoles and slips to help keep everything modest.  Proverbs 31:21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.  The clothes describes here are thick and darkly colored to keep in body heat and consequentially can not be seen through.

4. Wear high neck lines.  Wearing a high neck line will prevent anything in a woman’s garden from showing if she needs to bend or stoop.  

5. Wear looser fitting clothing.  Have you ever wondered why some men have silhouettes of women that are very shapely?  Obviously there is nothing we can do about a man who has chosen to be fleshly but we do not have to encourage the behavior toward ourselves.  Form fitting clothing leaves very little to the imagination.  

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Hope you enjoyed learning a little about Christian Modesty

My hope is that you now have some understanding of modest apparel.  Dressing for the King and for my husband has been very freeing for me in my personal life.  I hope that even if you disagree with my personal standard you can see that it is possible to buy cute clothes with modern design and still keep your body covered. 

If you enjoyed this please Pin it to Pinterest!  You may also enjoy Psalm 36: A Psalm of David  and What To Do When You Fail.

National Dog Day: Our Great Dane Life

It’s National Dog Day! Woof Woof!

Normally I don’t chime in on these national day of “fill in the blank” but I’ve got to jump on National Dog Day since I now have a dog.  I didn’t even know there was a National Dog Day until just recently!

National Dog Day was founded in 2004 by dog lover Colleen Paige.  The day is celebrated every August 26th.  I like that it is a set date and we don’t have to count out to the fourth Sunday of the month of something like that.

Great Dane, Great Life

Our dog is a Great Dane.  He was born with the Blue Merle gene and therefore was not show quality.  Of course, that hasn’t stopped him from being a family quality dog!

Great Danes are commonly called “gentle giants” and they really are very sweet dogs.  Our dog can’t stand for someone to be upset.  He must come over and try to love them back to happy.  Not all of my friends appreciate his effort!  There is a lot of slobber involved with his affection for sure!

Living with a Great Dane is similar to living with a rock star.  Everyone wants to talk to you about the “horse” you keep inside your home.  Those who are shy may not enjoy the new found popularity that comes with owning a giant breed dog.

The Great Dane Bad

Since people often ask me, “Would a Great Dane be a good fit for my family?” I’m going to start with the “bad” of living with a Great Dane.  Thankfully there are very few of these cons.

In real life, a rock star is expensive.  In Great Dane life, the dog is expensive!  Ours is a little fat, weighing in at 175.  A dog of this size is going to eat a lot more than his 30 pound cousin, he is the size of an adult man.

Medications for a Great Dane are also going to cost you.  Due to the large size of the dog, you’ll need much more medication to reach a therapeutic dose.  They can also have thyroid issues so some medications may not be a good choice for this dog breed.

Their accessories are going to cost more too.  You’ve got to buy or make a much larger bed for your dog.  In the past I would by 6 pillows from the dollar store and then get a king size sheet and sew it into a pillow case.  I’d sew the pillows together and then tack the sheet case to the newly made bed.  After many shredded dog beds, I finally threw in the towel and got him his own sofa.

Toys need to be made of high quality materials if you expect them to last more than a week.  Our darling dog loves to carry around a stuffed animal before bed.  Unfortunately, they don’t last long so we have to keep a nice supply stashed away.

The Great Dane UGly

There is a lot of slobber.  Perhaps the Great Dane breed will not slobber as much as an English Mastiff, but there is definitely a lot to go around still. Our dog will shake his head after every drink and he can fling slobber all the way to ceiling.  There are times he literally wipes his nose on the wall or sofa.  This means we have to schedule plenty of “wall washing days” among other things.

Remember above when I mentioned people ask me about the “horse” I keep?  Well, if he is the size of a horse, you can imagine that his potty trips are the same size as well.  We have literally broken a cheap pooper scooper with this dogs load!

If you’re living in a place that has a limited yard, you may want to consider the waste the dog will need to eliminate.  He has also killed a plant or too with his heavy dose of “watering” as well.

Lastly, they are VERY close to their pack.  Our dog doesn’t do well at all if he has to sleep alone at night.  He needs to be with his people or he will get sick.  We made the mistake once of having a neighbor check on him while we were gone for about 17 hours.  Since we got in so late, he was worried and got a nervous stomach and made a mess.  Our friend did the best she could to clean it up.  It was a very good thing carpet shampooers were available!  As long as he knows we are in the house, he doesn’t mind sleeping alone on his sofa.  From now on, if we leave and can’t take him, we have to find a dog lover to stay with him overnight.

the great dane good

This dog is certainly a loyal friend.  He loves the whole family and doesn’t choose to be loyal to just the alpha family member.

He’s really not a barking dog unless someone comes to visit and then he alerts us to the company.  Most of the time he just sits right under my feet sleeping to day along.   It’s almost like having a living throw rug!

A Great Dane is big enough to go and do long hike trails and enjoy the outdoors with us.  If you end up wearing yourself out, he’s more than happy to sleep the day away with you as well!  I love that his energy level is pretty low but he can also be motivated to “get up and go” for a little chicken and car ride adventure!

In my opinion, the Great Dane is the best dog to own!  Our Great Dane has brought so much joy to our lives.

Here is a video of our Great Dane getting a drink from a water bottle. Such a silly boy.

Young Great Danes at play.

Our Favorite Great Dane Approved Toys and Accessories

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Thank you!

I really appreciate you dropping by today and reading about our dog.  Would you like to hear more about our Great Dane life? Let me know what you think of living with such a large animal in the comments below.

Until Next Time –

Davi

 

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Dear Husband Knows How To Push Buttons

Oh my!  Does my darling husband ever know how to push my buttons!

Nightly dear husband and I have a “date” time that starts shortly after all the littles are in bed.  Most of the time it’s right at 9:15pm give or take few minutes.  When I picked up blogging, I began to work a little a few nights per week during our “date night” time, especially if we are watching a movie.

I cant type a single post without his help.  He just simply must reach over and help me by PUSHING BUTTONS.  So, if you see any typos, it wasn’t me. Haha!

Sometimes he just pushes my fingers

He is still indirectly pressing the buttons through my fingers though.  I personally believe this to be just an excuse to touch my hands.  He finds me so irresistable you know! LOL  Maybe my nailbeds are button like?

Other times he swipes my hands clear off the laptop!  He really thinks he is funny.

Occasionally dear husband presses my nose

He lovingly calls this boop the nose.  Dear husband has seemingly always been fascinated with my nose.  I’m not sure if it’s actually a “button” nose per say.  Even if it’s not a true “button” nose, my husband believes it works well for a button.

The dreaded “tickle buttons”

I’m not a huge fan of being tickled but I suppose if I am to be to tickled, it should be by dear husband.  Of course this often turns into a pillow fight as I try to defend myself.  As long as no elbows are thrown, everything usually works out fine.

Hospital Bed Buttons

I’ve been known to spend some time in the hospital.  One fond memory would be when dear husband was sitting next to me while I was on a hospital bed.  As you’ve probably guessed by this heading, he saw some buttons.  Since this bed was a transfer from the ambulance to the emergency room, it had a big red button that would collapse the legs and fold them up to load into the ambulance.

Dear husband leaned over and said, “Hey baby, what does this button do?”  Before I could muster up a reply his happy button finger was already pressing buttons. The next thing I knew, my legs were being dropped down to the floor with a loud crash!  A nurse ran in with a stern glare and helped put my bed back up.

The Jest

This post is silly of course and pokes a little fun at my beloved.  In all honesty he wouldn’t be picking at me and pressing buttons if I was actually upset.  I knew the risks involved with bringing work to our date. 😉  And, he’s just so cute I can’t possibly get mad.

Do you have a date night with your spouse?  I hope you make time to keep each other first.  We certainly have a blast.  Let me know in the comments below, what do you do to keep your marriage in the romance phase?

Thanks so much for dropping in today.

Until Next Time-

Davi

Psalm 36: A Psalm of David

Psalm 36 A Psalm of David

Today during my devotional I read Psalm 36.  I’ll be honest the first time through I didn’t get much.  I had to apologize to the Lord and ask him to help me wake up.  I haven’t been sleeping well.  It’s probably my kidney stones. :-/

Once I was more alert, I read the chapter again.  The following is what I gleaned from my devotion.  Hope it helps you as well.

1) The transgression of the wicked saith within my heart, that there is no fear of God before his eyes.

For he flattereth himself in his own eyes, until his iniquity be found to be hateful.

The words of his mouth are iniquity and deceit: he hath left off to be wise, and to do good.

He deviseth mischief upon his bed; he setteth himself in a way that is not good; he abhorreth not evil.

Thy mercy, O Lord, is in the heavens; and thy faithfulness reacheth unto the clouds.

Thy righteousness is like the great mountains; thy judgments are a great deep: O Lord, thou preservest man and beast.

How excellent is thy lovingkindness, O God! therefore the children of men put their trust under the shadow of thy wings.

They shall be abundantly satisfied with the fatness of thy house; and thou shalt make them drink of the river of thy pleasures.

For with thee is the fountain of life: in thy light shall we see light.

10 O continue thy lovingkindness unto them that know thee; and thy righteousness to the upright in heart.

11 Let not the foot of pride come against me, and let not the hand of the wicked remove me.

12 There are the workers of iniquity fallen: they are cast down, and shall not be able to rise.

Scripture taken from King James Bible courtesy of BibleGateway

Character of the Wicked

Verse One shows us that the wicked are not at all afraid of God, not even when they commit an act of wickedness.  We can also deny God in our lives when we choose to willfully sin, at that moment, we are telling God we are not afraid of his chastisement for sin.  I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be lumped in with, “the wicked” and it scares me to think of how God views a willful sin.

Verse two shows us that wicked think much more of themselves than they ought too.  Now, the Merriam-Webster dictionary tells us that flattery can be an insincere praise and this wicked person could possibly be offering himself that, a form of pride, but I think “a pleasing self-deception” is more likely what this wicked person is doing.

After all, Jeremiah 17:9 tells us, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” Apparently this wicked person’s lack of ability to recognize how deceived and prideful he or she is also leads to being hateful.

Titus 3:3  “For we ourselves also were sometimes foolish, disobedient, deceived, serving divers lusts and pleasures, living in malice and envy, hateful, and hating one another.”

As hard as it may be to grasp, before Jesus came into our lives and saved us, we were hateful.  I certainly have no desire to go back to malice, envy, and hatefulness after all the Lord has done for me.  Pride will put us right back in that place of hating and envy so we need to guard our hearts and protect against it.

Verses three and four show us that when a wicked person speaks, they are saying ugly things and/or deceiving others with their words.  This deception is for their own personal gain, not to actually help others.  The thoughts of the wicked person are all vanity as well.   This person can only think of plans that go against the Word of God.  They have forsaken wisdom from God and have turned to whatever sounds best to them.

I aspire to be a lady in whose mouth was found no guile.  Unfortunately, I can’t say that is true all the time.  I have been provoked to anger and I’ve certainly said some things I wish I could take back.  Haven’t you?  I do believe that God is faithful and he alone can help us to be a purer vessel that will be found with no guile.  All we have to do is let him work in our hearts.

God’s attributes

When I think of just a handful of God’s attributes, I’m truly overwhelmed.  My friend sings a song called, In My Father’s Eyes.  You may have heard it as well.  I honestly can’t imagine what the Lord saw when he reached down for me.

Verses five and six tell of us God’s mercy, faithfulness, righteousness, and judgement.   He is faithful to extend mercy to us so many more times over than we deserve.  I know that just since I’ve been saved, I’ve failed him more than I could count and yet he’s NEVER failed me.

His righteousness is GREAT like the mountains.  I’ve not seen many mountains, but when I have, I just have to stand in awe.  It’s so beautiful yet so intimidating.  Can you imagine meeting someone that was so right in all they did that they were never wrong?  Wouldn’t it be intimidating just to sit and eat with them?  Think of an extraordinarily successful person, how would you feel sitting with them to a meal?  Honored I’m sure, but you’d also put on your nicest clothes, make sure you didn’t over eat, and maybe refresh your manners.  And yet God, who is right in all his judgments, desires a relationship with us!

Lastly, in verse six, we are told that God himself, not anything we can do, preserves both mankind and animals.  Why does he do that?  He loves his creation!  That is why he sent his beloved and only begotten son to die for our redemption and that’s why he still preserves us today.  I’ve faced a lot of illness, so have many of my friends and sometimes all I could trust was God will preserve me and hold me together.

Colossians 1:17  And he is before all things, and by him all things consist.

That single verse kept me going through some of the worst pain in my life. If you’d like to read about the painful disease called endometriosis I lived with for years, click here.

The Joy of the Christian!

Now that we have seen the traits of the wicked and the holiness of God, David gets excited over the life of the redeemed!

In verses seven through ten we see the lovingkindness of God mentioned twice.  Not only does he love us, he expresses that love with kindness.  What good does it do to love someone and never show them your love with kindness?

As wives, we need to show our love to our husbands.  It’s so easy to get caught up in the mundane, run of the mill life.  Don’t forget to find ways to show your husband you love him.  As a mother, we need to show our children love.  As home educating moms it is very easy to get wrapped up in paperwork and lessons and find yourself not showing the love your children need.

Daniel 7:25 And he shall speak great words against the most High, and shall wear out the saints of the most High, and think to change times and laws: and they shall be given into his hand until a time and times and the dividing of time.

As women, we need to protect ourselves from fatigue because the devil is doing his best just to wear us out.  I don’t know about you, but when I’m wore out, I’m not loving.  Be vigilant to protect your heart, mind, and the body from just being worn out.   For some of us with chronic illness, this means we will need to say “no” to some things so we can stay healthy enough to take care of our families.

In verse seven, my King James Bible has a note on the word “excellent”  and it says “precious.” Is the lovingkindness of God still precious to you?  If you find you’ve been taking for granted the lovingkindness of the almighty God who desires a one on one relationship with you, it’s time for a heart check.  Above all, we should never forget to show the Lord our love in return for all he’s done.

David’s Request

Verse eleven is a prayer made by David.  David is asking God to keep him from being puffed up with pride.  The position of King can cause a man to become full of pride.  Pride was the devil’s sin and he will provoke us to be prideful as well.

1 Corinthians 8:1 “Now as touching things offered unto idols, we know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffeth up, but charity edifieth.”

David was a good King and he knew that he needed God’s help to stay humble and keep his mind pure.   God gave a wonderful testimony about King David when he said that David had followed God all the days of his life, except for the matter of Uriah, the Hittite.

1 Kings 15:5 “Because David did that which was right in the eyes of the Lord, and turned not aside from any thing that he commanded him all the days of his life, save only in the matter of Uriah the Hittite.”

If even the great King David could fall into sin, how much more do we need pray this prayer, let not the foot of pride come against me?  Probably every one of us could improve our prayer life.

The Plight of the Wicked

Verse twelve shows us that wicked do not truly prosper in the end.  The wicked fall and are cast down.  There is no one to help them help stand back up since they have turned from God.

In contrast, a righteous man can fall and God will send someone to help him back up.  A righteous man knows when he has made a mistake or even committed a sin.  King David certainly knew and he was very quick to repent and ask God’s forgiveness and help when he did mess up.

Proverbs 24:16 “For a just man falleth seven times, and riseth up again: but the wicked shall fall into mischief.

Final Thoughts

There is a lot to unpack in this short Psalm.  Twelve verses cross reference us all over the book and teach us a lot!  I’m thankful that God wrote his word down for us to read over and over again.

As Christians, we should seek to make improvements on our lives daily.  If we are successful with making those improvements through daily sanctification, we need to take care that we do not become filled with pride.  We need to remember that we can slide right back into the behavior of the wicked man.

2 Corinthians 10:12 “For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.”

We also need to remember not to compare ourselves with what we perceive another Christian lady to be.  We need to stay in our own lane, run our own race, and compare ourselves with the perfect example, Jesus.  How well are we shining Jesus through our life?

If you’re still reading, I truly want to thank you for stopping by.  Let me know if this daily devotional helped you.  I love to hear from readers.

Until next time-

Davi

 

 

What To Do When You Fail

When You Fail, Dont Stay Down.

We have all probably heard the famous Thomas Edison quote, “I have not failed.  I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”  They key to his success was learning from the first mistake and doing something differently the next time he tried to reach his goal.   When you fail, you need to be like Thomas Edison!  Dust yourself off and try again.

Let’s take a minute to look at some things to do when you fail to get back on the horse again.  Each failure, when properly analyzed can be a stepping stone on your path to success.

Relax and Step Back

Don’t be too hard on yourself when you dont meet a goal.  If you’re anything like me, it’s pretty easy to brow beat yourself for not reaching an expected goal.  Yes, we want to meet deadline and crush our goals, but spending to much time kicking yourself while down hinders your bounce back.

Let’s face it, we have enough negativity coming at us from other areas in life.  You can’t always control what you hear from your boss, team leader, or co-worker but, you can control what you hear from yourself.  Don’t be your own worst enemy!  Be realistic, not self destructive.

Take Inventory

Next, you will want to break down the steps you took in your attempt to reach your goal.  Have you ever woken up and thought, how did I get here?  Sometimes we don’t really realize how certain decsions will hinder our progress on the road to our goal.  For example,  if you have a financial goal to save a certain amount of money in a week but you give in to the temptation of buying a Dunkin Donuts iced coffee every day on the way home from work or school, you’re shooting yourself in the foot.  Without really realizing it, you’ve spent $10.75 or more.  Small decisions can add up to a derailing quickly!

Perhaps you plan to write a novel and you set a goal to finish the entire manuscript in 4 months and then you fail to reach the goal.  Begin to take inventory by asking yourself some questions.  1) Did I have a good idea for a story?  2) Did I make an outline of the basic story? 3) Did I think through my main characters?  4) Did I set small daily writing goals?

As you answer the questions you have about your failure it becomes easy to identify your weaknesses.  For me, failure to meet a daily writing goal happens a lot.  Some of this is the season of life I’m in and some of it, if I’m honest, is just poor time management skills.  These are examples of things I have actually failed at in my daily life!  You now have the priviledge of learning from my mistakes.

Remember failure is an event, not a person.

Failure happens to the very best of us.  In fact, it’s a vital part of learning.  Both failure and success are just an event that happens, neither are people.  If you show me a successful person, Mark Cuban comes to mind as I write this, I’ll show you a failure too!

It is so very imporant and liberating to remember that a failure is simply an event in your day, like the page on a book.  This failure does not and will not define you as person.  My husband often says that life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.

A success, lottery winners for example, can quickly turn into failure if you react to it wrong.  Often we see lottery winners spend money so quickly that they don’t have enough money for taxes and end up with a large IRS problem.  Inversely, a failure can spur innovative thinking and creativity that can launch a new product, a new career, Lydia Senn’s virtual assistant career comes to mind, or maybe even a new scientific theory!

Failure is Education

Failing isn’t really the issue, the issue is refusing to learn from the event.  I’m sure you’ve heard of “the school of hard knocks.”  Using a failed circumstance as merely a learning expierence is what that saying refers too.

You can go to school and get a degree in buisness and still not learn everything you need to know about your business.  The failures you meet along the way on the road to building your business are going to provide valuable lessons you just can’t get in the class room.

I remember years ago in EMT training we had drill days to practice our skills that we studied in books.  Everything reads well in the books but it’s very different when you try to put a C-Collar on a person in  an actual squashed car.

In high school my brother watched all of games on video so he could identify his weakness or point of failure during a game.  By doing this week in and week out over the course of his high school career he was able to improve significantly faster than those who relied solely on the coach’s observations.  He won many achievements and awards by using failure as a teacher and we can do the same.

Failure is NOT an Excuse

Finally, failure is not an excuse to give up.  My father always told me that nothing worth doing is easy.  Maybe that’s not exactly true since eating is relatively easy but, his point was clear.  Worthwhile things take time and commitment.  If something goes wrong, we need to be problem solvers and not quitters.

Winners don’t always win but a quitter will certainly never win.  Failure can drive us to educate ourselves better and change tactics but it should never be an excuse to just give up.  What if you are only one failure away from success?  Don’t let failure scare or stop you!  Remember it’s not a person, it’s just part of life.

In fact, Jesus told us to expect to fail at some point!

Luke 16:9 And I say unto you, Make to yourselves friends of the mammon of unrighteousness; that, when ye fail, they may receive you into everlasting habitations.

Prepare to Fail Again

Since we now know that failure will always be a part of life,  we need to prepare ourselves to face many times over the course of our lives.   Failure doesn’t have to be a terrifying monster.  It is something we can tame if we view it differently.

Tom Corley has a great book that show us how our daily habits can be a point of failure.  I highly recommend giving this book a good read!  I bought my copy on google play books with some reward money.  I’ve linked a hard copy version from Amazon here.  I enjoyed this book so much, I ordered one for my public library.

In order to accomplish great things one must be willing to risk a great failure.

“It often requires more courage to dare to do right than to fear to do wrong.” —Abraham Lincoln

I hope this has helped you to view failure in a new light.  Please comment below, I love to hear from readers.

Until next time-

Davi

Mom Interviews: Grace In The Wait

Used with permission from Amber at Grace In The Wait

Howdy!  Today I’d like to introduce you to fellow Texan: Amber from Grace In The Wait.

Amber and I started blogging around the same time.  Grace in the wait, Amber’s Blog, is about faith, family, and real life.  Anyone that has seen “Leave It to Beaver” knows that family life is not always as wonderful as June Cleaver’s clean and polished home.

Real life gets messy!  It’s not scripted and things are hurled unexpectedly and we don’t always have the perfect response, the right answer, or the patience to wait.

Amber reminds us that we are all in a different stage of spiritual growth.  We’ve all got some complex problems that only God can help us with.  We need to remember where we came from when God found us, and be patient with each other as we grow in grace, faith, and love.  It’s about grace in the wait.

Mom Interviews

Have you ever been somewhere and heard some sort of negative remark regarding your parenting?  Perhaps you have been in a check out line with a WIC check and felt embarrassed.  Maybe you’ve had the screaming tot in the check out line demanding candy.

Amber noticed that the rise of social media has contributed significantly to mom shaming.  In order to help people understand more about where others are in their stage of life, Amber began Mom Interviews.

These inteviews show case different moms with different struggles in different areas of the United States.  Who knows, Amber may also treat us to a mom in a different country!

All of these moms are very brave to offer their time and a window into their personal lives. (I’m not just saying this because I’m one of the interviewed moms either.)  Opening up your personal beliefs, be they parenting styles, religioius views, or even something as trivial as favorite colors, is an oppurtunity for ridicule and critisim.

Let’s just face it, their are mean people out there.   However, I believe the risk is worth it.  We need to be able to sit down and talk to each other in a civil manner and try to understand why others think differently than we do.   We recently celebrated 15 years of marriage and even my husband and I don’t agree on everything.  We’d never have made it this far if we couldn’t sit down and listen to each other’s perspectives on life.  (That’s not to say sin is OK, but we do need to learn to have grace.)

Mark 2:15 And it came to pass, that, as Jesus sat at meat in his house, many publicans and sinners sat also together with Jesus and his disciples: for there were many, and they followed him.  

Be Still And Know That I Am God

Have you ever found yourself waiting for God to do something?  Maybe answer a prayer or provide some special blessing just for you and your family?  Grace In The Wait has stories about that too.

Psalm 46:10a Be stilland know that I am God

Sometimes it’s easy to read your Bible and know that you should be still and wait on God.  The reality is, it’s hard to just sit and wait.   As mothers, we often want to do something to “fix it.” However, God’s ways are not our ways and He wants us to just place our faith in Him and let Him work it out on our behalf.

Planning a wedding can be a time in life that is exhilerating and stressfull at the same time.  We can be so excited and just run out and buy, buy, buy!  Then we find ourselves in a mess because the Lord had a plan the whole time to provide you a special blessing of golf carts to aid in valet parking, a sister to buy the perfect dress, or a friend to bake the wedding cake.

In my case, having endometriosis treated successfully was a long wait. If you would like to learn more about that disease, click this link.  I had tried every medication (except Lupron and other Gnrh antagonists) and so many natural methods to treat it but nothing worked.  The wait for surgery with Dr. Sinervo was hard but so worth the result!

We All Come Short At One Time Or Another

Romans 3:23 For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;

In short, we’ve all done something we aren’t proud of.  We need to remember that.  Jesus was loved because He was able to extend grace and overlook some sins in order to draw those that needed Him to His Word.  

Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.

Many of us as mothers have heard and said the famous saying, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.”  It’s so true!  With all the problems we have to face from life itself, we don’t need to add to each other’s problems.  How could we change the world if we all tried to accomplish “ministering grace”?  I’m eager to see!

Head over to Amber’s Blog

I think you’ll really enjoy Amber’s blog, Grace In The Wait.  You’ll find other moms you can relate to and hopefully glean some wisdom from them as well.  No one knows everything and we never know when life will change with just one phone call.  You may find the mom whose gone on before that can help you along your path.

Here is the link for Mom Interview #1

Here is the link for Mom Interview #2

Last, but not least, here is the link for Mom Interview #3 with yours truly.

I’m not sure how many will be up but check with Grace In The Wait every Monday for a new Mom Monday!

Thanks For Being Patient!

Lastly, I’d like to thank all my readers for their patience while I was traveling!  There will be some posts coming soon on our travels and I hope you’ll really enjoy those too!

Until Next Time,

–Davi

Top 5 Reasons You Should Use Pinterest: Mom and Lifestyle Blogger

Mom and Lifestyle Bloggers, Pinterest is your friend!  Here are my top 5 reasons you should use Pinterest if you’re not already.

Today Buffer did a webinar on Pinterest with Leon Lin and Aaron Ru hosted by Brian Peters.  This was a very informative webinar that all bloggers in the mom and lifestyle niches can learn a lot from.

I never really intended to write a blog on blogging but, I found this information so helpful today, I felt I just had to share.  I learned so much but these are my top 5 reasons mom and lifestyle bloggers should use Pinterest.

Below are the main principles I took away from that interview.

  • 1) Pinterest is FOR creatives!  I knew this in the back of my mind before I ever became a blogger.  How did I know this you may ask?  Well, I have been using Pinterest for personal use for years!  What did I use it for?  IDEAS.  Pinterest is the perfect platform for a mom looking for inspiration.  I went there to have my creative juices stimulated by other creatives.
  • 2) Pinterest doesn’t use your friends or relatives likes to guide their recommendations for you.  INSTEAD, Pinterest uses YOUR boards and likes to base recommendations for you.  Wow!  What a concept!  I got to thinking about this and Face Book is a little more like peer pressure.  They are usually giving you things like, “Hey, your friend Crystal likes this, maybe you should too.”  This is not necessarily a bad thing since I am also interested in a lot of things my friends are interested in.  However, Pinterest is more for individualism and personalizing to your actual tastes.  Both media platforms have their place for sure but, Pinterest has a more personal feel.
  • 3) Moms use Pinterest!  Before I began blogging, that’s exactly who I was.; a mom using Pinterest for creative ideas!  In fact, the interview alluded to almost 80% of Pinterest users being moms!  First time moms, home school moms, working moms, veteran moms, all types of moms us Pinterest.  If mom blogging is your niche, THIS IS WHERE YOUR AUDIENCE IS!
  • 4) Another thing the interview brought up was, 1 in 2,  (50%) of Pinterest users come there with an intent to purchase.  Fashion and lifestyle bloggers as well as mom bloggers can use this to their benefit.  Views and clicks are great encouragement to continue making great content.  However, conversions that help earn the income needed to spend all your time creating is also very important.
  • 5) Evergreen content is truly evergreen on Pinterest.  I know from using Facebook myself, after just a few hours, anything posted on the feed is bumped way down.  On Pinterest people often save your creative works AND return to it several times.  They may even share with their friends and family who will in turn save and return.  The life of content feeling “fresh” on Pinterest can be 6 months or more!  Other platforms may give you only 3 days of traffic.

Buffer is a great resource!  Especially for those bloggers who are just getting started.  I highly recommend that you follow Buffer and see if you can get the replay of this webinar.  It was amazing.

Pinterest Best Practices

The new guide to best practices on Pinterest was also released.  Leon Lin and Aaron Ru both expressed that Pinterest is for the creator.  They also recommend you pin daily but definitely not less than once a week.  Go ahead and get a business account and use the analytics tool to help you.  Do use the group boards for collaborations with other bloggers or social media influencers.

Pinterest No No’s

Don’t be spammy.  No one likes a person that is self centered and only cares about themselves.  Not only does Pinterest respect you as a creator, they also respect you as a curator.  Help them find the good stuff and pin that too!  As a Christian, I like the idea of a tithe, for 10 pins you pin, make 9 other peoples and yours the one.  Don’t over pin though, 20 pins a day may cause you to look like a robot.

The biggie for me on group boards was, don’t expect these to help your traffic.  The guys at Pinterest will start docking for non collaborative group board pinning!  Use it as intended Leon Lin stressed, for collaboration!

No Giraffe pins!  Users don’t like these they said.  They take up too much space and make it difficult to browse on the phones.

Conclusion

Pinterest has success when you have success.  Their goal is give creative content to their users.  Pinterest wants great creators!  Let them help you by using their tools as intended.

So, let’s take this knowledge, apply it, help each other, and get creating!

Thanks so much for reading!

What do you think?  Do you agree or disagree with my top 5 reasons to use Pinterest?  Leave a comment below and let me know if this helped you.

Until next time-

Davi

Pensacola Symphony Orchestra: Music For Families

Pensacola Symphony Orchestra performed a great family event Saturday May 19, 2018.  I’m so glad we were able to go!  Music for families was an amazing event!

The event was held at the Saenger Theater in downtown Pensacola.  We had never been to this theater before.  The details of the inside were beautiful.

Blue’s Angels music store was one of the sponsors for the event.  I really love the Blue’s Angels music store.  They have a really awesome guard parrot that lives in the store.  They also have fish tanks that look like drums.

The atmosphere at Blue’s Angels is really relaxed and enjoyable.  The staff there make it a great store!  Blue’s Angels has a lot of teachers available for all types of instruments as well.  There is also a nice selection of pianos in their show room.

Cox and Wendy’s were also sponsors.  I’m glad these two businesses teamed up with Pensacola Symphony Orchestra to bring this entertainment to us.

The “Petting Zoo” For Instruments

We absolutely loved this idea!  The petting zoo was a place the children could visit nearly every instrument in the orchestra and learn a little about how it makes sound and give it a try on their own.  Each instrument was accompanied by a member of the Pensacola Symphony Orchestra.

Piano

My DD went straight for the piano!  She’s been playing for years and she’ll play it any time she has a chance.  They had a nice black babygrand piano on display for all of the children to use.

Cello

Sneetch 2 went for the cello.  He was recently given a cello by a nearby church to learn on.  YoYo Ma is one of Sneetch 2’s favorite musicians.  The man at the cello station gave Sneetch 2 a little mini lesson on the cello and we watched him play a few notes.

Violin/Viola

Violin and Viola were also on display.  Viola is my personal favorite!  It plays the alto and has a warmer more homey sound.  It’s like the violin’s mom.  Sneetch 1 didn’t go with us but he prefers the Violin.  Violin is just so stereotypical though! Hahaha.  You know you love someone if you let them practice those high E string notes on violin in your house.

The Bass

We had to take a look at the Bass.  I’m not sure if some of the kids were just done looking at it or perhaps intimidated by it’s large size.  We have a Great Dane and the bass is bigger than he is!  We really enjoyed talking to the man giving the demonstration.  He let all of us play it and then he even played us a little song, Mary Had A Little Lamb.

Winds and Brass

They had an entire room of winds as well.  We went there and saw the Tuba, Basson, Flute, and Trumpet.  The lines in this room were also long.  They did clean the mouth piece after each use but, my kiddos just couldn’t bring themselves to blow on a mouth piece that had been used by 15 kids while we waited.  Perhaps my days of nursing school rubbed off on them!

Percussion

One of our favorite attractions was the percussion demonstration that the Blue’s Angels music store staff put on in the “instrument petting zoo”.  There were several different types of drums set up, maracas, and tambourines. The girl that lead the demo taught us different beats.  The big drums got to bang “ham and cheese”, the smaller drums beat a “run for-est run” beat, and those of us with tambourines and maracas shook to a beat of “pea-nut but-ter”.  Once we had it down they played the song “Happy” and we tried to stay on beat!  This was absolutely hilarious with about 30 kids in the room!

The Concert!

After all the time in the petting zoo was over, the Pensacola Symphony Orchestra played a concert for us.  The maestro, Peter Rubardt and a woman named Nicole talked to the audience about how instruments produced sound.  The concert had a “music train” that the conductor (Peter Rubardt) drove Nicole around on.  They pretended to look for all the members of the Orchestra.  Those of us in the crowd had to help “start” up the train.  On the floor level half of the people stomped feet to a beat.  The other half of the floor level audience chanted “chugga chugga”.  Those of us up in the balcony made the whistle sound of “woo woo”.  It may have been a little corny but, I loved it!

Drumland

When they got to Drumland, Nicole and the conductor introduced us to the “mayor” of Drumland.  He gave us an overview of all the instruments in the percussion section of the Orchestra.  Lots of people enjoy the drums but I think my favorite has to be the triangle.  The triangle reminds me of the ‘wild west’ where I’m from (west Texas that is).

Once we were all familiar with the instruments that fell under the percussion umbrella, the three guys playing percussion played a short little song.   I had no idea that composers even wrote songs for only percussion!  It was neat to see.

Brassburg

Nicole acted as though she thought only the drum section was the entire orchestra.  The conductor told her that he felt there were a few more people in an orchestra.  They hopped on the train again and found Brassburg.  Brassburg was home to the tubas, trumpets, and all those horns.

The mayor from Brassburg was a tuba player and he told everyone about the brass section.  One interesting thing this mayor mentioned was that the sound for these horns first starts with the way you buzz your lips!  I did not realize that the lips had to buzz to make the correct sound.  I’ve always thought it was like a flute or something and you just blow on it.

Once again we were treated to another song.  This song was brass plus percussion.

Woodwindville

The next stop on the “music train” was Woodwindville.  This section of the orchestra had bassoons, flutes, and oboes in it.  This little town had our first female mayor!  She played the bassoon.

Once we were educated on this section of the orchestra, you guessed it!, we got another song!

The flutes really added to the music.  I enjoyed those a lot.

String City

The last stop on the “music train” was the string city.  This is my favorite!  Our family really gravitates toward the strings.  I’ve got a small YouTube channel showing my progress as I learn both violin and piano.

I’ve also got this article here about learning to play as an adult.

The mayor of String City played the bass but he said he got elected mayor due to his vow to bring the viola back!  I don’t have a viola yet (hence learning violin instead) but I cheered loudly while the four violists held up their violas!

At last we had the entire Pensacola Symphony Orchestra assembled.  It was time for the full effect!

Finale

The Pensacola Symphony Orchestra played a mash up of all the songs in the Disney Beauty and the Beast film.  Nicole had picked this song for everyone.  Once this song was over she asked the crowd what song they would like to hear next.  Everyone luckily shouted Star Wars, which was already on the program!

Conclusion

This was a great program for kids and their families!  People were excited to hear the wonderful live music and everyone was polite and courteous no matter how loud the babies were.  We had such a great time we will definitely be back next year!

The best part was, the tickets were a mere $5 each.  You can’t go to a movie theater for that folks!  Your brain is certainly not going to be as engaged during a film either.  Lastly, your kids may never get to see and touch that many instruments in a single day!

Sheet Music

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If you’d like to play some classical music at home, click here to buy some virtual sheet music.

They have 4 levels of sheet music to choose from for virtually any instrument you can think of.  It’s not purely classical either, they have all types of music.

Chicken Picks

These picks were developed by Eppo Franken in 1984.

I haven’t tried these yet but, I’m so looking forward to getting a trial set.  I last purchased these picks from Amazon.

These are okay but the thin ones broke over time and they are slippery if your hands get sweaty while playing.  I can’t wait to see how the chicken picks compare!

Thanks so much for stopping in today!  If you’re planning a vacation to Pensacola or live within driving distance, I hope you’ll consider watching the Pensacola Symphony Orchestra!

Until next time-

Davi

Perfect Mother’s Day Tea Party: How To

I absolutely love Mother’s Day Tea Parties!

I enjoy hosting Mother’s Day Tea parties just as much as I do attending them.  Are you looking forward to this Mother’s Day?  Have you thought about making memories with your loved ones with a tea party?

Hosting a Tea Party can be a wonderful way to make memories with your friends and family.  If you’ve never hosted a Tea Party, don’t be intimidated, it can be a lot of fun once you a few parameters set.

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Picking a Theme!

A Mother’s Day Tea Party can be informal and simple or it can be a grande affair, also known as a “High Tea.”  Some Mother’s Day Tea’s are a mix of the two with an informal or whimsical theme with a fancy dress.  I personally LOVE big hats so I like to go with either a formal theme or a whimsical mix.  What can I say, I’m a Texan, bigger is better right? Hahaha.

When considering a theme I like to think about weather conditions we are likely to have.  Since I live in Florida it’s often humid but I’m really partial to a garden theme anytime the weather is good!  Perhaps the fact that we often eat indoors daily makes the idea of a garden theme that much more alluring.  I do suggest selecting a location that has some sort of shelter to offer a back up plan if you select an outdoor garden theme.

  • Song of Solomon offers a great garden theme if many of the guests to be invited are single.  Song of Solomon is one of my favorite books of the Bible and I really love this theme for a formal affair.  Gardenias are a particular favorite for me when I choose this theme.  Since Song of Solomon also speaks about riding in the chariot with the King, I really like to embellish the decorations as much as possible and over emphasize the flowers.
  • An Alice In Wonderland theme is great for mothers with smaller children that would like to attend a special event with mom.  This theme is excellent for both indoor and outdoor facilities and offers a wide array of dress to guests.  Hats can big and tall or short and small.   This theme also allows for mix matched tea cups and saucers, napkins, tables, chairs etc.  I really enjoy hosting this type of tea party as well since the sky is truly the limit!
  • Another theme I like is the Proverbs 31 woman.  I usually read over this passage and select a few features that tie in with it.  For example, I use the color red in the decorations since verse 10 mentions her price is far above rubies and verse 21 says that her clothing is scarlet.  Since this passage really demonstrates the high value of the famous Proverbs 31 Woman, I like to use this theme for a formal “High Tea”  to honor a special lady such as a pastor’s wife, a very special grandmother, or another lady considered to be a “pillar” in the church.  Fine tapestries are also mentioned so I like to use all cloth table cloths, napkins, and make a nice drapery area for photos.

Themes can be easy and simple too.  My daughter and I once did a small little tea party for just the two of us during nap time of the boys.  We had cucumber sandwhiches and pecan sandies with her princess tea party set.  We made good use of her Disney Cinderella costume as well.  Since normally I’m a huge stickler for food being only in our kitchen, we broke the rules and took the food up to her room!

When planning your theme don’t force an idea you can’t get excited about.  If the stress takes the joy out of planning your mother’s day tea party, go simple and small.  Afterall, the main purpose of the tea is to build and strengthen relationships and memories!  Perfection is not required.

Guest List

Choosing who to invite is pretty important!  I’ve had a tea party as small as my daughter and myself and as large as 30 or so ladies.  Your tea party can be any size.

Would you like to have some quality time with just your own children?  Would you like to have a generational tea party with your granmother, mother, and daughter?  Is honoring a lady in your community or church on your mind?  Answering these questions will help you to determine how large your guest list will be.

When making your guest list you will also need to keep a date in mind.  If your guests work outside the home on weekdays, you’ll need to keep this in mind for the best attendance.  In my circle of friends, quite a few of us work from home or outside the home on Saturdays so, weekends are not always the best option for a tea party.

It’s also important to think about Mother’s Day traditions in other families as well.  Perhaps many of your friends go out to eat on that day at the mother’s favorite resturant or maybe they take a weekend trip to hike at the national park.  Whatever the case may be, you’ll need to try and anticipate as much as possible from your guests to get the best attendance.

 Location

Your location should match up with your theme and guest list.  Some locations may require a large purchase of catered food or rent for the location.  If your location will require a deposit or food purchase, you’ll need to make sure your budget allows for it.

Try to select a location your guests will be excited to visit such as a tea cottage, a beach house, or a country cabin.  Take time to talk to friends that may be property owners or realtors that can help you find a hidden gem.

Also consider the distance from where your guests live to the location.  See if you can find a central location that will make the drive time as equal as possible.  If you do find a perfect place tucked out in noman’s land, consider offering a car pool!  At least this way if they get lost, they are still all together. Hahaha. (It’s taken me a long time to develop what little sense of direction I do have!  Thank the Lord there is now GPS)

Tight budgets may find a nice little church will offer a room for a tea party.  Even a nicely kept public park can make a nice area for a tea party, especially with the Alice in Wonderland theme!  If you do choose to go with a public park be considerate of music selections and clean up well before leaving.  Some of my most fond memories come from parties we have done at a local park.

 

The Food

Planning the food can be the biggest challenge for the do it yourselfer!  However, I find this part to be very enjoyable despite the challenges.  Pinterest can be a great tool for ideas but, I’ve taken the time to round up some great ideas from my fellow bloggers for you as well.  If you’ve choosen a location that provides catered food you may still get to make some decisions about what exactly is served.  I hope these ideas help you to decide even if working with a caterer.

A formal or High Tea should be a full meal.  Here are a few ideas!

Don’t these look mouth watering! Huge thanks to Klara at Her Happy Heart for these fabulous recipes.

Let’s not forget the deserts!
Tea Selections

When selecting teas, you want to be able to offer a variety of flavors.  I always serve a black, white, and herbal blend of tea at a mother’s day tea.  I usually also pick a really out of the ordinary tea such as a chocolate.  My personal favorite teas are the fruity blends such as blueberry anything.  Ask your friends if they have a favorite or if there is a type they’ve wanted to try!

This article from Life Is Better With Tea will help you to find reliable and trusted online stores for teas.  I have personally bought from Teatulia Organic Teas in the past.  Her website is a great resource for how to make the perfect cup of tea all the way to proper selections of tea and even recipes for tea too.  I think you’ll love all the teamazing knowledge Mary Ann has to share!

My favorite local tea shop is K & G Blended Teas.  They have wonderful hand blended teas.  My favorites from them are the African Honeybush Sangria and the Wild Card tea.  Their Chia teas are wonderful too!

Budget

When possible I really like to cover the entire tea party cost myself however, that’s not always feasible.   If you’ve got money set aside for a tea party, look at your theme, guest list, location, and available decorations and see what you will need to plan for.  A tea party for six in your grandmother’s back yard may not require the same expense as a luxury hotel conference room for 80 ladies.

A few years ago there was the sweetest and most adorable little tea cottage in our local area that could seat about 28-30 people at one time.  Several ladies from our church felt this would be a great venue however it required a minium purchase agreement in order to rent the entire space.  We had a meeting with all the ladies in our church and discussed doing a dutch treat tea party that year.  The service was so wonderful that we did it another year as well!  Sometimes the perfect venue is worth guests paying their way.

If you’ve decided to use a location that will require you to service both the food and decorations you will need to consider the costs of these in your budget as well.  When my friend and I hosted a tea party at our church, we looked for decorations at thrift stores, yard sales, and craft fairs.  Another good idea is to see if anyone you know has tea pots, linens, flowers, tea cups, or other decorations you can borrow.  Several older ladies in our church has tea sets that had been boxed up in the attic for years!  Asking for the use of these items really thrilled these ladies.

There is also the potential of teaming up with a local women’s shelter and donating some or all of the proceeds to them.  Many businesses will be willing to sponser your event to help the community.  You could have monetary donations, decorations, and even food donated for the use of a non profit mother’s day tea to benefit a women’s shelter.

The Dress! Big Hat or Small Town?

Personally, I’m a tradionalist and absolutely love to wear a cute dress to a Mother’s Day Tea Party.  Something about a dress just makes me feel classy and boosts my self esteem.  Just add a touch of lipstick and a matching pair of shoes and you can conquer the day in a beautiful dress!

I know a lot of people enjoy getting a new dress around Easter time but, I like to hold  off for Mother’s Day.  Jane.com has a great selection for dresses,  shoes, and even matching jewelry in their daily boutique deals. They have several styles to choose from from a simple T-Shirt style dress to a cute sun dress.

My top pick from Jane for a mother’s day tea.

My favorite “mommy and me” dresses from Jane.

If you are looking for plus sized items Tara Lynn’s Boutique is the place to go, they have sizes all the way up to 5x.  I’m really impressed with their colorful prints for plus sized clothes!  They also have a few “mommy and me” matching dresses.  My little one and myself love to dress alike a few times a year.

I love these spring florals in sizes all the way to 5X!

These “mommy and me” stripes and floral combos are perfect for a spring tea.

This is my favorite “mommy and me” combo! I’m in love with the blue.

 

Cents of Style is another great place to find a mother’s day tea party dress.  My favorite thing about Cents of Style is they always offer free shipping with no minimum purchase required.  Sign up today and make a purchase of $25.00 or more and they will include a free pair of earings!

My top picks from Cents of Style!

This is the lowest price I’ve found anywhere on this cute flowing skirt.

Adding a big hat is, as you already know, my personal icing on the cake.  I love to make my own hats!  Of course you can always buy your own Kentucky Derby style hat and even enjoy the hunt for it.  However,  I’ve found it much more economical to purchase summer hats like these here from Jane.com and then embelish them myself to match my dress.  If there is a Peacock owner in your area you may be able to find your own feathers there much cheaper than hobby stores.

Summer hats from Jane.com to embelish for your mother’s day tea.

Time To Ivite Your Guests

Well, now that you’ve got some great ideas on food, teas, decorations, themes, it’s time to get that guest list down on paper.  Once you’ve got your list made up create some invitations to match your theme.  There are several places to choose from, Etsy, Canva (this is what I use), and old fashion card stock.  If you don’t have time to press or decorate the old fashioned card stock, Canva may be your best bet.  Etsy also has awesome options if you’ve got room in your budget.

It’s a good idea to put out a feeler or save the date by word of mouth to your guests so they will know to expect an invite.  Many families are very busy in the spring and they appreciate a little heads up to reserve the day.  I like to send out my physical invitations at least 7 days in advance but not more than 2 weeks or they may get lost.

Happy Mother’s Day Tea

I really hope that you’ve enjoyed this post and have some great ideas for your next Mother’s Day Tea Party!  Have you hosted a Mother’s Day Tea of your own?  Do you have any great ideas to share?  Please comment below and let us know!  If you’ve found this helpful save it to Pinterest.

I’d like to thank Mary Ann from Life Is Better With Tea. Klara from Her Happy Heart, Dana from Homestead Anywhere Piwakawaka Valley, Fa from Being Healthy Blog, Kristina from Stivi Wonders, and Sylvie from The Foodie Journey.  I couldn’t have accomplished this without their help.  Please visit them and say Hi!

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Thanks so much for stopping by today!

Davi